(The In Search Of Mr. Darcy Series is a look at the often humorous stories, the lessons and the experiences of a single gal in her 30s who also happens to love Jesus. This can be funny and I’ve learned more than a lesson or two. These are topics and discussions I know I (and my friends) have dealt with (or am still dealing with) as a single lady living life. From funny things I’ve heard, mistakes I’ve made, to the joys of watching my jeans shrink, here’s my story (so far) in this wonderful decade known as the 30s. You can find past entries here!) Have you ever felt like this? I have. Like every other three minutes. There’s so much you don’t understand or grasp when you’re young about what it means to be an adult. If I only knew right? One of the biggest things for me is how much things change. My late 20s and 30s have shown me just how much. Whether it’s my body (and the fact that it takes several more laps to notice a workout difference or my jeans are sneaky and shrink when I’m not looking) or what’s happening in and around my life. There’s folks my age buying houses, having their third or fourth child, getting married, even getting divorced and parents passing away. Big and hard kinds of things!
There’s the small things too. I research 401Ks, I get excited about Dysons and I think the best gift ever would be house cleaning for a year. Or a personal chef. I’ll take either. Y’all, life changes much differently when you hit your 30s. Top it off with the fact that I don’t even feel like an adult yet. But here I am.
Making adult decisions and stuff.
Maybe it’s just me, but I can sometimes get myself all worked up about future. Will I ever feel ready? Does anyone else out there feel that way? Whether change be fun, sad or just another natural step in life, I want to embrace each stage. I don’t want to fear it (although gray hairs, feel free to STOP). I also don’t want to live always on the anticipation of change. I’m not even sure if that makes sense, but it’s so easy for me to focus on what’s coming that I miss out on what’s now. Good thing the Lord is faithful in reminding me that He’s got this.
“Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:6-7
With age comes change. Whether it’s good or bad, it’s an adjustment and there’s many transitions with each new chapter in life. I truly don’t see how people can go through it all without the peace of Jesus. For me, knowing He gives peace in all things is a beautiful reminder and keeps my hope alive.
“Peace I leave with you, My peace I give to you; not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.” John 14:27
So what about you? What are some of the “new” things you’ve learned as an adult?
I’ll leave you with a couple more words of encouragement. Wherever you are right now, may these encourage you!
Before the mountains were brought forth, or ever you had formed the earth and the world, from everlasting to everlasting you are God. Ps. 90:2 For the mountains may depart and the hills be removed, but my steadfast love shall not depart from you, and my covenant of peace shall not be removed,” says the LORD, who has compassion on you. Isaiah 54:10